I am going to talk about something that the wedding industry rarely does… If you follow your fair share of wedding industry types, you would think that what I am about to say is taboo… And it largely is…
While most engaged couples are busy picking out the perfect venue that captures their vibe, drooling over dreamy dresses, choosing a colour scheme and everything else that goes with planning the wedding of their dreams. But this is not true for every couple.
The truth is that some couples get part way through planning their wedding and life serves them up a curve ball that changes the trajectory of their relationship. Or they simply decide they have a different vision for their life.
Of course, it is absolutely devastating and heartbreaking. Most couples have agonised over the decision and have not come to it easily. But the one thing that I know more than any other is that I never want to add to that pain.
So, this is my promise to all my potential couples… If you should ever find yourself in this situation, there will not be any difficult conversations, any awkward silence or emails filled with attitude. Instead what you can expect is an abundance of empathy, support and love.
Yeah, it’s true, you won’t get your money back (it covers the admin work already provided as well as the loss of income for your wedding date) but I promise that you will have a friend on the other end of the line. A friend that wants the best for you and your life.
Because ultimately, I value marriage. With my whole heart I value the love and security that comes with marriage. I love that you are vowing to be there for it all, the good, the bad and the ugly (who else is going to love you with morning breath and when your hair is looking like a bird’s nest… Or is that just me!). I love the leap of faith that happens when you are inspired by love. That you know that it is not always going to be easy, but it is always going to be worth it.
I can also tell you that I have the honour of standing in profound moments of tremendous love and I can sincerely tell you that there is nothing better. But I want you to be standing there alongside someone who is bursting with pride and whose heart overflows with love for you. Nothing less will do!
I also value not being a jerk…